So, as all my readers who know me know, I am the single gal living in Chicago. This coming weekend is Halloween (observed).
A friend of mine who is not part of my usual circle is hosting a party and, well, facebook-invited me. I really like said friend and would like to see her apartment, meet her boyfriend, meet her other friends, etc. Hey, fresh meat!
It just so happens that the handful of people she and I mutually know have prior engagements. This means yours truly will be showing up at the party solo. This is fine by me - like I said, I know the host. She is a nice person, so I assume she will have some other friends at the event that are nice people. If, for some reason, it gets really awkward or I have no one to talk to or some issue, I will leave - I don't plan on staying long anyway.
I pride myself on being an independent person, so I am fine with going places alone. Recently, there was a good friend's surprise birthday party with a similiar circumstance. The three people I was friends with - the birthday boy, his girlfriend, and his sister were all out to dinner, so I showed up at the bar beforehand, alone, and spent about an hour/hour and a half with his random friends - all nice friendly people.
This leaves me wondering two things. 1) Is this normal? Do other people feel ok showing up at bars/parties/various places alone? Am I in the minority, or is this completely and totally normal? I know back in high school and even college, I would not have felt ok showing up anywhere alone. And, if my readers remember correctly, I, for some reason, did not feel safe showing up at my high school reunion alone. Anyhow.
Secondly - is there something weird about a person who shows up alone to other people? Again, I know back in high school/college, there would have been some stigma attached. Is that still the case? As Carrie Bradshaw would claim - singles' discrimination! (SINGLES AT THE COUNTER!) Is that one of the greatest perks of dating someone? Having someone to drag to all kinds of events? I swear, once, someone dated me simply for the reason that he wanted me to accompany him to 'girlfriend' stuff. I digress.
Anyhow. What's your personal policy on people who go places alone? Is it normal, or is there some stigma attached? Do you go places alone? Your thoughts?
A friend of mine who is not part of my usual circle is hosting a party and, well, facebook-invited me. I really like said friend and would like to see her apartment, meet her boyfriend, meet her other friends, etc. Hey, fresh meat!
It just so happens that the handful of people she and I mutually know have prior engagements. This means yours truly will be showing up at the party solo. This is fine by me - like I said, I know the host. She is a nice person, so I assume she will have some other friends at the event that are nice people. If, for some reason, it gets really awkward or I have no one to talk to or some issue, I will leave - I don't plan on staying long anyway.
I pride myself on being an independent person, so I am fine with going places alone. Recently, there was a good friend's surprise birthday party with a similiar circumstance. The three people I was friends with - the birthday boy, his girlfriend, and his sister were all out to dinner, so I showed up at the bar beforehand, alone, and spent about an hour/hour and a half with his random friends - all nice friendly people.
This leaves me wondering two things. 1) Is this normal? Do other people feel ok showing up at bars/parties/various places alone? Am I in the minority, or is this completely and totally normal? I know back in high school and even college, I would not have felt ok showing up anywhere alone. And, if my readers remember correctly, I, for some reason, did not feel safe showing up at my high school reunion alone. Anyhow.
Secondly - is there something weird about a person who shows up alone to other people? Again, I know back in high school/college, there would have been some stigma attached. Is that still the case? As Carrie Bradshaw would claim - singles' discrimination! (SINGLES AT THE COUNTER!) Is that one of the greatest perks of dating someone? Having someone to drag to all kinds of events? I swear, once, someone dated me simply for the reason that he wanted me to accompany him to 'girlfriend' stuff. I digress.
Anyhow. What's your personal policy on people who go places alone? Is it normal, or is there some stigma attached? Do you go places alone? Your thoughts?
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