An Honest Question About Gossip

A while ago, I wrote this post about getting together about my girlfriends and how, occasionally, we have the bad habit of sometimes talking about 'the one who isn't there'.

Recently, my friend Jeannine (who is responsible for the 'someecards kick' this blog has been on) sent out an email to our group of girlfriends saying 'this made me think of our group of girls'.  My friend Laura replied 'Wow, this is sad.  Or is it normal?'

That is what I am wondering.  I'd love to pretend I'm innocent of talking about my girlfriends behind their back.  I am not.  It's not malicious.  Sometimes it's out of concern.  Or, at the very least, in 'harmless', goodnatured fun.  Is this the standard amongst all groups of girlfriends?  Is it that every group, on occasion, gossips about each other behind one's back?  Is this, in part, 'not being a good friend'?  Is anyone immune to the gossip bug?  Your thoughts?

No Jaime Judging.

So I have a group of three high school girlfriends.  We are a tightknit crew.  We don't get to all be in the same place at the same time very often.  It is complicated as adults.

Once in a while, it will so happen that the three of them will get together without me for whatever reason.  It mostly ends up that I am invited but cannot make it.   Said incident is happening right now.

Whenever this happens, I always say the exact same thing to them:

Please don't talk about me too much.

It is a half-joking sentiment - A)  because I know, if anything, this has encouraged the opposite and 2) because I know there really is no way to stop it.

I don't think this group of friends is particularly gossipy, especially not in comparison to other girl groups I have experienced in life.   I feel all women are like this.  And, truth be told, as much as I don't like to think I'm being gossiped about, it really has little to no impact on my life.  That, and let's be honest, I am not interesting enough to be gossiped about.  I hope to one day be exciting enough to be featured on perez hilton.  Even if if it's in a bad light.  There's no such thing as bad publicity.

Anyhow.  I digress.  Does anyone else feel the same way at times?  Does anyone else ask her girlfriends, or anyone in general, not to talk about her?  Does anyone know of a group of girls that doesn't occasionally gossip about whoever is not there?  Can they possibly be any fun at all?!  Do any women not gossip?   Your thoughts?

Dinner Party Recap

veggie pizza

buffalo chicken dip

spicy turkey meatballs

deviled eggs, cheese, veggies, taco dip

chips, guac, hummus

So my dinner party was a huge success, if I do say so myself.  Not to play monday morning quarterback, but in hindsight, I made WAY TOO MUCH food.  I have way too many perishable leftovers.   Don't get me wrong - I'm glad I had choices for my guests.  But I made enough to feed around 30, while I was expecting 8.  Oops.  If you're in the hood, please feel free to stop by for leftovers.