While We're on the Subject of Crazy Online Dating Experiences....

Let me preface this message with the fact that I have the following in my profile:

a) you can form a coherent, grammatically correct sentence
b) you are looking for more than just a fling
c) you are an independent adult

I get the following message:

Sweetie, I've missed you in my life. I meet two of your requirements to contact you. I can form coherent and complete sentences, but they do run-on sometimes. Plus I am an independent adult. As for your other requirement, I don't meet that. What I want is a fling, someone to hold me and be naked with. I'd like it to be with you.

Yep.

Thanks for the honesty?

(Yes, of course, only on OKCupid.)

Deja Viewed Your Profile

Has anyone else noticed?

Ok - so it's no little secret, I've dabbled in some, ahem, online dating.  I've tried almost all of the major sites (not necessarily all at once).  Sure, each is different in its own way.  I've noticed, ahem, some overlap of 'clientelle'.

Of course I am guilty of this as well.  But it's kind of of funny.  One might think he or she is opening him or herself up to some new people by joining an additional site.  And this might be true, to an extent.  I'm curious the amount of 'unique users' each site has.

The funniest thing, however, is I personally have experienced several moments of 'deja vu'.  Or maybe 'deja viewed your profile'.  What amuses me the most (and I'm guilty of this as well), is that on every site, the people have the same user names and pictures.  When I was telling a friend about this, he commented that, well, it makes sense - it's the same single & looking people in the same city - it wouldn't really make sense if it was a completely different set of individuals.

I also remember once there was a guy I started talking to on one network.  I realized quickly that I just wasn't going to hit it off with him.  This may have been bad form on my part, but I just stopped responding (we hadn't even spoken on the phone or met in person).  He then messaged me on ANOTHER network, calling me out that I'd stopped responding on the first network, but he still wanted to keep talking to me.  I was weirded out and, needless to say, did not respond once again.

Do my fellow online daters have the same experience of dealing with the same people on every network?  Is there a point of being on multiple sites at once?  Does anyone else feel some 'people' are following them as aggressively as zappos remarketing?  (Sorry, lame search joke.)  Your thoughts?

That Time of Year

Happy Thanksgiving!

To Highlight or Not to Highlight

So I am thinking of revirginizing my hair.  Yep, that's right.  In the words of the immortal Britney Spears - my hair is not that innocent.

I believe at some point between sophomore and junior year of college, I started putting some color in and, well, it's a vicious cycle.  For the past three years or so, I've only done highlights.

I was reading in glamour magazine, I believe, that Amanda Seyfried was given some hair award (or some crap like that) and when she was asked what her secret was, she said she no longer puts any color in it - it's all natural.  She also mentions she only washed it every other day, which I just cannot bring myself to do (but this is a whole other can of worms entirely).

I've noticed I've been getting a lot of split ends lately, and quite a few sources have suggested that the color could be partially to blame.  That, and I am starting to question what the highlights really do for me.  A couple friends have suggested I wait until I actually really need to dye it (in other words, when it goes gray).

What do my readers think?  Do any of you have 'virgin' hair?  Are highlights, generally speaking, just a wash?  Have any of you gone back from the dyeing habit?  Does anyone else wash her hair every day?   Your thoughts? 

My Favorite Part of the Presidential Election

These Pictures.

You can count this as my last political post of the year.  We'll see if I break this rule.

McKayla is Not Impressed....

....with some random chick who is dressing as her for Halloween.

Sweet or Stalkerish?

A while ago, I wrote this post about a guy on Okcupid who has messaged me several times without anything remotely resembling a response from me.  I have now received message #4:

I must be a big idiot, cuz Im still trying here. I have no idea why Im even enamored with you, but I am. I must be a glutton for punishment or something. Either way...I would love a chance to chat with you and get to know you. Im sure that you still wont respond, but I gotta try with the hopes that youll respond...one day. LOL 

Mike

I can't say I saw anything in his profile that made me feel like he and I would hit it off, so I'll continue to ignore - but is this cute and sweet and what every girl really wants, or creepy and bizarre behavior?  

Diary of a Submissive Review

So as my readers know, I am part of BlogHer.  I am part of a compensated review program for the book "Diary of a Submissive" by Sophie Morgan.

Anyhow.  I signed up for this book because I was intrigued by this genre of literature, with that rather popular "50 Shades of Grey" out there (which I have not read).  I wanted to give this a try.   As I said, I don't have experience with this style of writing, so a part of me feels I'm judging not necessarily this book but this genre in general, which might not be fair.  It's as if I saw a rom-com and I'm judging not necessarily whether I liked the specific movie but if I like cheesy little love stories instead.

That being said - I am not sure this genre is, well, for me.  However, for the reasons listed above, I'll try to be as fair as possible.

A brief synopsis:  Sophie (the main character) is a well-adjusted, successful woman who had a pleasant childhood and is living a good life, however, she likes to be completely dominated in, ahem, the bedroom.  She gets very graphic in her detail of what happens - during her escapes with various men over the years, she experiences being spanked, slapped, paddled, and tied up to the point of excruciating pain.  She also finds herself in various situations where her hands are bound and drool is dripping down her face, or she's told, by the man she's involved with, to call him sir, to thank him for punishing her, etc.  And she likes it.  It turns her on.

Now, for me personally, although I understand 'to each her own', I cannot wrap my head around enjoying this.  Sophie comments on how she feels she hates the man she's with (at one point in the book, she's involved with a f*** buddy, at another point, a man she's interested in a relationship with), however, after it's all over, she's enjoyed herself and is happy.  For me personally, if the guy I'm, ahem, 'with', tells me to call him sir, I'd tell him to get out of my sight. Although I understand the point Sophie makes that she enjoys this and seeks this out - I wish she would have elaborated more on why, exactly, this turned her on and how she reconciles her personal relationship with these men afterward.  Although it may be hard to articulate, this would have been what was most interesting to me (instead of hearing that she was lashed exactly 109 times).

Anyhow, I'd say overall, I didn't enjoy reading something so sexually explicit, however, as I stated above, it's probably not fair to hold this against the writer since I knew what I was getting into.  I gave this genre a try with this book.  I did think the writer had a generally pleasant writing style.  It was easy to move quickly through the book; she held interest and was (ahem) very detailed in her descriptions.   I'd be up for reading something else by this writer (in a different genre).  

My Favorite Thus Far

I worry that if I go into politics, one day I might end up in a binder, in the hands of someone like Mitt Romney.

Music & Lyrics

The other day on the radio (on Eric & Kathy, duh), I heard an interesting statement:

"Happy people listen to the music, sad people listen to the lyrics."

I don't know about you, but I find this to be SO true.  I think maybe sad people are looking for comfort in the lyrics, either in the form of advice or in a 'misery loves company'-esque way.  I know there were hard times in my life when I've found comfort in music lyrics.

What are your thoughts?  Do you agree with this?  Is it fair for me to make certain assumptions about people who constantly post song lyrics in their facebook statuses?  

Well This is Sad....

One of my favorite and most entertaining websites, My Very Worst Date, is shutting down.  I feel the moderators & I understand their reasoning.  Thank you for many great (and some not so great) stories.  I'm glad I got my own story in before this site ended.

I must say - it's very very challenging keeping a website up & running....

Another Online Dating Adventure

So, I got an email on Match.com from a nice looking, normal seeming guy.  He wrote me a polite, grammatically correct message.  He seems to have ambition and have his life in order.  It appears as though he's a decently intelligent person with some respectable interests.  I was feeling excited; however, I got to the last line of the email:

"I'm not going to lie, I'm guessing, as a dancer, you have incredible legs, so I just wanted to say hello"

Is this creepy/weird, or just a little flirtatious?  Do I reply and give him a chance?  Has anyone else had an experience like this?  Your thoughts?