Music & Lyrics

The other day on the radio (on Eric & Kathy, duh), I heard an interesting statement:

"Happy people listen to the music, sad people listen to the lyrics."

I don't know about you, but I find this to be SO true.  I think maybe sad people are looking for comfort in the lyrics, either in the form of advice or in a 'misery loves company'-esque way.  I know there were hard times in my life when I've found comfort in music lyrics.

What are your thoughts?  Do you agree with this?  Is it fair for me to make certain assumptions about people who constantly post song lyrics in their facebook statuses?  

Testing A Theory?

Carrie: You said you were a Stewardess?
Miranda: I was testing a theory.
Carrie: A theory being?
Miranda: That men are threatened by powerful jobs. They don't want a lawyer, they want...Aiden: A liar!
Miranda: I'm just saying as a lawyer, a partner no less, I got zero dates and as a stewardess, I got one for tomorrow night.
Carrie: I believe the correct term is flight attendant.
Miranda: Not if you wanna get laid.

I heard the other day on Eric & Kathy that there's some truth to this - that women who are in traditionally lucrative careers (such as doctors and lawyers) and single have quite a hard time getting dates because men are (sometimes even openly) intimidated by them.  


This makes me sad.  I hope this isn't true, or, at least, gets phased out soon.  Women - what have been your experiences?   Is it better to 'lie down' whilst trying to date man?  No, not in that way.  Get your mind out of the gutter.  Is the job for pun-writer on Sex and the City still available?

Has Google Made Trivia Obsolete?

So, regularly, in the morning, I listen to Eric & Kathy.  They usually do something 'trivia-like' (oh, pardon me, 'Mix Morning Mind Bender').  Whenever they ask the question, I always simply think 'if I wanted to participate in this contest, I would simply google the question'.

I remember being at a bar on a trivia night back 3 years ago and the administrators of game made a big deal that iphones MUST BE PUT AWAY or the team would be immediately disqualified.  Granted, it was a large bar with at least ten teams participating, so there probably was some cheating, although, at this point in time, smart phones weren't as prevalent, so there was a good chance that some people in the game didn't have extra special help.

Whenever I find myself on the receiving end of an obscure question and not in some timed/isolated from technology conditions, there is one thing and one thing alone I immediately do - I google it.  I think I can safely say, most of society is with me on this one.

This begs to questions - is there a purpose of trivia contests on the radio/television/newspaper any more? Can't everyone pretty much 'cheat'?  Secondly - at one point in time - there may have been something to knowing some piece of obscure information.  Perhaps it defined a 'true fan' of something.  Perhaps it was some kind of payoff to someone devoting a lot of time/energy/interest to a certain subject.  Is it a blessing and a curse that all kinds of information easily accessible at our fingertips?  Is the concept of trivia pretty much gone?  Are we losing something in this, or is it all for the better?

Top 10 Surprising Ways to Get a Guy to Commit

So this morning, on Eric & Kathy, there was a nice spirited discussion on an article by Rori Raye about how to get a guy to commit.  She lists off ten suggestions:

1)  Love him, but don't be his girlfriend
2)  Don't be exclusive until you're engaged
3)  Date more than one man at once
4)  Be able to receive love
5)  Don't try to win him over
6)  Tell him what you want
7)  Tell him how you feel
8)  Be vulnerable
9)  Be in touch with your feelings
10)  Allow him to be who he really is

Ok, I TOTALLY agree with this list.  Moreso the top half of the list (especially 1, 2, and 3).  I kind of feel like people, in general, need a little extra motivation to take action sometimes.  Back in about 30+ years ago, it seems like men proposed after a much shorter period of time because, if they didn't, someone else might and they would lose out on something good.  Nowadays, couples will date exclusively for a long period of time, so a guy can be confident that as long as the girl didn't break up with him, she's committed to him.

I also kind of think it's like the job interview process.  When someone is interviewing for a job that seems really attractive, he or she will actively pursue it and really take action, despite the fact that there might be the existence of unseen cons or potential problems down the road.  However, let's say someone who is in a job for a couple years might not feel the need to do that - a) he already feels comfortable/secure and 2) even someone who is genuinely happy in his job might feel, say, no less uncertain a couple years in (he is just more aware of both the good and the bad).  That and I personally feel in life, everything always has a little bit of a leap of faith - no one will every REALLY be sure, he or she will just have to make a decision and take a risk.

Anyhow - your thoughts?  Agree?  Disagree?  Think long-term committed dating is the way to go?  Other techniques for getting a man to commit?

The Guy Who Won't Give Up on You....

Ok, I thought of a dating/relationship/man post I wanted to write - woohoo!!!!

So a friend of mine and I were talking about the proverbial guy who asks one out multiple times after having been rejected.  I remember, back in college, one of my close friends saying her father had asked out her mother several times and had been rejected, and well, they obviously somehow ended up together.

I also remember this being mentioned on Eric & Kathy one morning recently - with the follow up question being 'how come when it happens in movies, women find it charming and endearing, whereas in real life they find it creepy'?  (Editor's sidenote:  Seeing that said man is being played by Hugh Grant or Matthew McConaughey is a very large factor.)

A friend of mine took the stance that she finds this sweet and charming - someone who has been rejected but keeps coming back for more must really want you and really be willing to fight for YOU specifically, as opposed to someone who just wants someone.  This is clearly someone who cares a lot and won't just up and leave you at the first sign of things being less than perfect.

I, however, have a different stance.  I find it to be a turnoff to borderline creepy (depending on the harmlessness of the individual).  As I see it, I would rather have someone who wants me to be happy, even if it is not with him, than one who wants to have me as his own, per se.  To me, someone who keeps coming back after I were to say no isn't respecting what I want, but rather, just thinking of what he wants - that, and I feel like this is a theme that might then keep resurfacing in the relationship, if that were to happen.  He wants something one way; I don't, but he keeps being persistent about having his way as opposed to thinking of my feelings.  For me, any guy who asks me out and is a 'soft no' would quickly become a hard, definite no if he asked me out a second time.

Your thoughts on the guy who won't give up on you?   Turn on?  Turn off?

Another Shoutout

...to another newly discovered blog reader - Ronny D!  Or should I say RonDe?  (or is it Rhonda?)  You  know who you are.

Ron is a good friend that I worked with for a good chunk of my professional career.  He certainly brings a lot of life, entertainment and myspace usage to any office he inhabits.

I am truly flattered not only that Ron reads my blog, but also that Ron wanted a shoutout, because Ron already regularly gets shoutouts on a much bigger Chicagoland media outlet.  Ronny, I can't write a song for you about getting your name wrong, but I hope this suffices (I wanted to pull your picture off facebook and put it at the top of this post, but I thought maybe that was a little TOO creepy).  

I appreciate the readership.  This better bring on a blog comment!

Editor's note:  Ron also has a regular-appearing TV spot where he talks about how much he loves Portillo's.   The fact that he even notices my blog exists means so much....