Come Back, Ellen!

One of my very good friends, Ellen, just left the United States to go teach in Korea for a year.  I cannot believe it will be a whole entire year before I see her again.  I am sad.  I am supportive.  But I am sad.  We have really connected over the past two years.

Ellen will point out here that I can come visit her in Korea.  If anyone would like to donate to the 'send Jaime to Korea' fund, please contact me directly.

Name Spellings

So my good friend Ellen sent me this article that I found interesting - 13 signs that he'll be a bad partner.

I can't help but notice #8, which is near and dear to me.  I have a name that often gets misspelled.

There was a guy I went out with a handful of times a couple months ago.  He misspelled my name a couple of times in email/text, etc.  I definitely gave him my name (and spelled it correctly, obviously).  Needless to say, it didn't work out.

I am currently talking to someone I may go out with.  We have been texting.  You guessed it - he is spelling my name wrong.  Should I hold it against him?

Here's my thought - these people, in theory, are trying to put their best face forward.  Is this like a person applying for a job, but spelling the hiring manager, or even worse, the company's name wrong?  Is this what one wants from someone who is 'trying his best'?  Am I just being sensitive?  Should one date a person who spells her name wrong?  Your thoughts?

Men At Bars.

So this past Thanksgiving, I was out on the Wednesday night beforehand ("Black Wednesday").  I met my good friend Ellen, who was with a bunch of her friends from kickball.  There was one guy I noticed right away - he was cute and we seemed to catch each other's eye.  We started chit chatting - it seemed, to me, like we were hitting it off and that he had a lot going for him.

Anyhow, as the night proceeds (granted, we were in a small bar where our group of 12-ish people made up  maybe 35% of the population), I see him talking to another girl as well.  Ellen mentions that he also knows this girl from kickball.  Long story short, they are also talking closely and I even see him kiss her.  Ok, I'll admit, I'm a little disappointed, but really no big deal.  I continue to hang with Ellen and chat with people.

So, it reaches the point that I am tired and ready to go home (and try to sober up so I won't be hungover during the turkey carving).  I make my rounds and say goodbye to the people I've met.  This dude rushes over to me.  He starts making excuses and apologizing - 'she meant nothing to me, I don't know why I kissed her'.  Ok - first off, he and I had only been having casual chit chat - so what would he have to apologize for, in theory - I, am, in theory, nothing more than a random person to him at this point.  Second off - do these words run out his mouth very regularly?  I remember a time when an acquaintance sent me a text saying 'sorry for my behavior last weekend, I was really drunk', people who mutually know this personal all voted that this is a regular quick text for him.   Is it a bad sign that a guy is already apologizing to me before we've even gone out?   Is he worth going out with?  (Sarcastic question.)  Is this what one should expect from a dude at a bar?  Your thoughts?

Deep Fried Butter!

What is that on my fork, you ask?  It's deep fried butter.  And it was, let me tell you, delicious.  Not quite as good as deep fried snickers.  Or, if you're in a savory mood, deep friend bacon.  But it's yummy.  Please disregard the deep fried look on my friend and my faces.  

Two Shoutouts!

To Ellen's group of friends, who were on the mass e-mail this past Monday.  Welcome to my humble internet abode.

Also, to a group known simply as "All Arms".  Only you and I know what happened at Redmond's that night.